Dos & Don'ts of Co-Parenting
Co-parenting can be challenging, especially when you're dealing with a difficult ex-partner. However, it's crucial to put your differences aside and work together for the sake of your children's wellbeing.
1. Communicate Effectively
Communication is key to successful co-parenting. Keep each other informed about your children's activities, school events, and doctor's appointments. Use a shared calendar or a co-parenting app to stay organized.
2. Be Flexible
Be open to changes in the parenting schedule. Life can be unpredictable, and sometimes plans may need to be adjusted. Try to be accommodating and work together to find a solution for everyone.
3. Keep Your Children Out of the Conflict
Never involve your children in adult issues or use them as messengers. It's important to shield them from any conflicts or negativity between you and your ex-partner.
4. Respect Each Other's Boundaries
Respect each other's parenting styles and boundaries. Avoid criticizing your ex-partner's decisions or undermining their authority in front of your children.
5. Seek Professional Help if Needed
If you're struggling to co-parent effectively, consider seeking the help of a family therapist or mediator. They can provide tools and strategies to improve your communication and co-parenting relationship.
1. Use Your Children as Leverage
Never use your children as a bargaining chip or try manipulating your ex-partner through them. This can damage your children's emotional well-being and create a toxic co-parenting environment.
2. Badmouth Your Ex-Partner
Avoid speaking negatively about your ex-partner in front of your children or to others. This can create unnecessary tension and harm your children's relationship with their other parents.
3. Be Inflexible
Refusing to be flexible with the parenting schedule or refusing to compromise can create unnecessary conflict and tension. Try to be open to changes and work together to find a solution for everyone.
4. Make Unilateral Decisions
Avoid making important decisions about your children's lives without consulting your ex-partner. This can create resentment and can damage your co-parenting relationship.
5. Disrespect Each Other's Time
Be respectful of each other's time and commitments. Avoid canceling plans or making last-minute changes without discussing them with your ex-partner first.
Co-parenting can be challenging, but following these dos and don'ts can create a positive co-parenting relationship that benefits your children. Remember to communicate effectively, be flexible, and respect each other's boundaries. If you're struggling to co-parent effectively, consider seeking professional help.
At Knies, Helland & McPherson, we offer co-parenting mediation services to help you navigate this challenging time. Contact us today at (719) 626-8530 to learn more.